Today I turn 40. This is the big one – or so they say. So I sat down and reflected on my 30s as I prepare for my 40s. Turns out 10 years is a long time. A lot happens. And there are some great lessons learned along the way.
Every year we grow a bit older and a bit wiser and this year I’m entering my 40’s so the question is what have I learned over the past 40 years of life?
Like any milestone in life, you hear so many things from others who have experienced it. But when you actually get to that stone on your path it’s still scary. Getting to my 40’s seems like it will not be any different than other milestones. In order to help me through this time, I wanted to take a look back at what I’ve learned in my 30’s. Hopefully, we’ll find out that I learned a lot and am ready to embark on another adventure with the ones I love.
Becoming a Mom is Pretty Awesome
Calvin is our first-born and was born three months before I turned 30 and now as I approach 40, we have a ten and seven-year-old. It blows my mind and they amaze me each day.
I am so Much Stronger Than I Ever Thought I Could be
When Calvin was 9 months old, we found out we were pregnant with our second son, Jaxon. I trusted doctors to get me through a condition that made my body produce twice as much amniotic fluid as normal. When I was so big I couldn’t feel any movement, I still trusted.
I asked them to deliver me at my 36 week check up. They didn’t want to. I still trusted.
Our son died four days later because the fluid put extra pressure on everything and caused a cord collapse.
I remember the exact moment we watched him on the monitor and our doctor pointed to his heart – as still as could be.
As I screamed, it felt like my insides were being ripped out of me. I didn’t know that I could survive.
I did. I am here. And making it through that taught me I. am. capable. of. absolutely. anything.
I am Blessed
Losing a child is quite possibly the hardest thing any person can go through. But we were so incredibly lucky to have Calvin to come home to after we lost Jax. To parent. To love. To fill our hearts that were struggling.
For many people that lose a child, it is their first. They come home to emptiness. I thank God that we didn’t have to.
Because when we got our hospital records from his and Jaxon’s birth we learned we almost did. I had the same condition with Calvin and he failed his pre-labor biophysical with a 4 out of 10. They did not observe breathing movements. We could have lost him, too.
And I thank Him for being able to have more children and giving us Ava. I am certain she was put on this earth to bring joy. I love her smile.
When Ava was six months old, I finally reached my limit of Wisconsin winters. I told my husband I wanted to move. I think that he heard the angels sing when I told him. 🙂
At the age of 34, we relocated to Arizona and drove cross country with a van full of mops, pillows, toys, a 4-year-old and an 18-month-old.
Our four years in Arizona were the best.
Filled with the best people.
And so much happiness for our family.
Blue skies and sunshine change you. They make you happy. And so does making a big change in life.
And you know what? Big changes help your children grow and expand their horizons.
The Ocean Rocks More
Opportunity knocked in Orange County and being the movers and shakers that we are – we took advantage of it.
At the age of 38, we relocated again, but this time to Southern California in a truck full of mops, pillows, toys, an 8-year-old and 5-year-old.
Moving with kids is harder. And leaving friends is hard.
But being ten minutes from the ocean is amazing. It’s worth every crazy insane penny we pay to live here.
A Great Marriage is Key
Doc and I started dating when we were 19. We got married when we were 25. And as we both turn 40 this year, I realize yet again how awesome he is. He makes me a better person. I hope I do the same for him.
We make each other stronger and when I look at what we have tackled in life together thus far, it makes me proud. Big time.
Love Your Friends and What You Do in Life
My 30’s were filled with a lot of change. I went from being a teacher to a blogger, writer, and social media junkie. I started my “blog” as a hobby and it turned into a full-time job that actually makes money. I love what I do and am thankful for the opportunity to follow a different path in life and connect with new people each and every day.
I went from having friends in the midwest to having them scattered around the world. I learned that the best friends do not necessarily have to be seen all the time and that online friendships can be just as awesome as offline ones.
Thank you 30’s. You were filled with great things but I look SO forward to my 40’s.
Hello 40’s!!!! I feel fabulous and look forward to learning, growing, and seeing what this new decade has in store!